Posts Tagged ‘journey’

I have been very pleased to have had the opportunity for some rather lengthy phone and chat conversations with one of my newest protégées, as well as a highly intelligent new servant of my Temple.

During those conversations, we have discussed some of the hardships new submissives as well as Dommes encounter as they embark on their journey. Often times someone will be judged by their beginning, their origin so to speak. I would like to point out a few things here which may offend a lot of people, but are never the less the truth.

#1 No one was born with either a collar around their neck or a crop in their hand. You may have been born with an attitude, a personality trade that in the long run has guided you towards this station, but that is all. There are millions of people all over the world, who by their nature are timid, gentle, submitted to their partners and are not interested or suited to being a submissive or slave. Likewise, there are millions of assertive, powerful and strong willed individuals, who are bossy, leaders etc., but are not interested in being either a Master or a Mistress. It is part of their mental makeup, but not a lead into a kinky or at least this sort of kinky lifestyle.

#2 We ask in this lifestyle or fetish realm for understanding, claim an open mind, want to tell the world that we are superior in our open mindedness, and yet it is often we who in the end condemn others for their lifestyle choices, beginnings and other jobs. I have been guilty of this myself a time or two, but am working very hard to stop this upsetting and downright juvenile behavior trait in me.

#3 The Titles do not make you a dominate person, but the power within does. You can read thousands of books on how to behave, how to speak, how to swing a flogger, tie a knot etc., but if you do not have the inner power, the understanding of the responsibility you take on for another human being, the love of what you do, and most of all the desire to be yourself, then you really are no more then a pretender. In financial domination, you run into a wide array of financial submissives / fetishists as well as Mistresses/Masters. Each one of them is different from the next. For some you need to be bossy, demanding and have an attitude from hell. With others, you win them more with kindness and understanding. A third one still, will only do what they want and when they feel like it. Those by the way are fetishists not submissives or slaves! In many ways, you need to be a reader of humanity, a psychologist and therapist all in one. You need to be able to be flexible, but true to your path. I for one lack the natural entitlement attitude so many Mistresses have. I do not feel that just because I slapped the name Goddess before my name it is your sworn duty to serve me. Matter of fact, if that is the only reason you would even do it, then I don’t even want you. I believe in giving back for what I receive. Karma is a real bitch and when you are the one always taking, she will take more from you then you can phantom. I do not fear this at all, because I have never taken more then I have returned in “value” to those who serve me loyally. My power and wisdom, my dominance comes from age old wisdom that is deep inside my very feminine core. I have found my path from the ashes that is my past. Trust me; my path would have reduced many of you to nothing.

#4 It really is all in the way you see things. I used to be an Erotic Dancer, a Burlesque dancer in many ways if you will in my late teens to early 20’s, and it is there that I have met and found my very first submissive client. Matter of fact, it was this particular gentleman who prompted me because of my being to learn, and embrace that part of my nature. I have been part of the adult industry in one version or the other ever since I was 18 Years old and in many ways I still consider myself part of it. I film clips for sale, does that not make me a “Porn Actress”? I move my voluptuous, beautifully chubby body to music while teasing you on my webcam, my clips, or while you are very uncomfortably tied up on my whipping post. My clothe are on, or maybe if I feel particularly generous my top may be off, but you can NEVER touch me. This is considered part of tease and denial. Part of BDSM, part of exotic dancing. Let me push you back a little further. Do you know who to me the very first financial Domme in history truly was? The famed biblical dancer Salome. She extracted a price so high, so dear only for the privilege of her beauty and dance. And there were probably many more before her. We frown down on exotic Dancers, on Webcam Entertainers etc. Is it the title of the occupation that we hate, or the way they have freed themselves from our own restrictions?
I will do a scene with a submissive via my Webcam, in a Web chat room. I will not give more or less than I am willing to give. I will tease, encourage, deny… for money. I will take the fee for my time. Am I really any different? You can be, and I often have been in the past, both. A powerful Domme and a Webcam / Film Entertainer, it is all in the way you present yourself and hold yourself.

#5 Nobody is as great as I! Oh please, get over yourself. You may have a better body than me, you may be younger or older than me, you may have a different bag of tricks than me, but darling you are not the greatest. There is always ONE who will be greater in someone else’s eyes. We are ALL great in our own way. Even our submissive counterparts, are wonderfully made to compliment us perfectly. I am only superior to you, because you have deemed me to be that way. I am only your Goddess, because you have seen something worthy of worship in me. Does that make you scum beneath my feet or a treasure to behold? Financial domination is Goddess Worship or God Worship in a very old religious way if you please. Think Church for a second. Do you not pay your weekly tithe? Why do you do this? Well, when my acolytes come to bring their gifts of appreciation to me, when I ask them for a token for my time I spend with them, then this is really no different. Their life has been enriched multiple times by my being who I am, by my allowing them to live out their fantasy, their fetish at my glorious feet. My Life has been enriched by their worship, their devotion and their money. I serve in a perversion of the term, those that serve me. Get a true grip on reality, we each serve the other. Neither would be filled without the counterpart. Could you live without having a Goddess to serve as a sub? Of course you could. You would probably have a lot more spare money, but your life would be devoid of something very precious. Someone you can adore, worship, work for, come to and more. In one simple statement, you have been given a special reason for being who you are. Likewise, can I as a Goddess live without you as my subs? Yes, of course I can. My life would be a lot less stressful; I would do a lot less worrying, caring, teaching etc. I spend endless hours with my boys, writing these Articles, editing my photos, posting my teachings etc. I work 10 to 12 hours and many of those hours I will never be paid for. But I would be missing something, if I would not have a reason to do this. Without my subs, I am not whole either. Never believe that we don’t need you. We just won’t but up with inadequate service. WE may feel filled with a good and worthy, a devoted and loving submissive, but it doesn’t have to be YOU!

#5 Instas, bratty princesses and veterans. Well, let me put it this way. If there wasn’t a sub who is looking to serve them, then they wouldn’t exist. Each one in turn has a reason for being. For many we all have to be a bit of all rolled into one if we want to step further. I remember, pretending at age 18Years old that I had experience as a dancer so I would get hired. I know just what to say, how to dress, how to behave. I got all that out of a book, and by watching Shows about it. I pulled it off nicely and got the job. I was an INSTA EXOTIC DANCER for about 1 Week and then I became a newbie. I started learning my own way, found my own groove, became comfortable enough in my own skin to let people know that I really was clueless and that all I had done was just by imitating what I had read and seen. I am often upset by the success those “INSTA” Dommes have, but is it really their fault or mine, for being so damn uptight? I envy those girls who can simply stick their middle finger in the air, pout, stump their feet and demand to be spoiled. And some silly older guy who probably will give anything just for the moments’ attention of a young girl again, because he is trying to recapture his youth. Is that their fault? No it isn’t, it works for them and they do what they set out to do. To make as much money in as short of a time as they can. If I think about it, I should not envy them, but pity them. Because if they don’t grow up, find their own style, become deeply dominate within, then they will be out of the “Industry” as soon as they get older. Not a good prospect. I do not have as many submissives knocking down my doors as they doubtlessly do, because I am a lot more intimidating then they are. When one comes to me, he comes in awe, in fear and is often a bit scared. They do not come to me because of my looks and pouts alone, but because of the power and inner shine they noticed in me. It comes through ladies, it does. The day where women in their 30’s are over the hill and no longer thought of as sexual is over. We truly have a lot up on the younger generation, because we have the experience, the understanding and the power they have yet to gain. Each generation, each age group has its benefits. We simply have to quit hating on each other and learn to benefit from it. When I am 60 Years old, I will still draw submissive males and females to me. Not because of my looks, but because I am wise, loving, demanding, sweet, cruel, enticing and ultimately powerful. This will never go away, contrasting to my looks, which will fade in time.

I am extremely proud of my beginnings. I have seen and done things, that I may wish would not have been necessary, but I have learned so many things from them when it comes to males thinking, behavior, needs and games, which many more “proper ladies” will not be privy to. We each had a path we needed to walk to get to the end of our Journey. Instead of looking down on each other, being spiteful and hateful, why don’t we reach out and help each other? I have started taking on the occasional younger lady as my protégées. I can only teach them what I have experienced myself and encourage them to find their own path. I am currently setting up workshops for those interested in learning from me. Both genders, both stations (sub or Dom) are welcome. I will bring you back to the basics, and build you up from there. Not from a politically correct view, but from a loving power that will leave you both empowered, more secure in your own gifts and ready to conquer those who are less then worthy of your time. Of course I am also going to teach you about etiquette, protocols, how to establish rituals etc. Basic rope bondage or leather restraining and the essential Goddess Worship among many other things.

I am gearing this towards wives and their husbands, who would otherwise be too shy to ask someone. I am encouraging those of you who are “insta” at this moment and really want to learn from someone who will not think you submissive, just because you want to know what the flogger on your skin feels, or how it feels to be on the bottom.

I am offering this to those, who really want to make a difference in the coming up generation and are willing to listen with an open heart.

My workshops are not cheap, but they are also not outrageously expensive. Stay tuned for further information on them.

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