Posts Tagged ‘financial domination’

Grab a piece of paper and a pencil right now and without analyzing what you write down, simply answer the following Questions:

#1 Why are you involved in financial domination?

#2 Am I happy participating in financial domination?

#3 How often have I been disappointed in the last 12 month by financial Dommes or subs?

#4 What was the biggest lesson I learned during the last 12month online?

#5 Where do I see myself in regards to financial domination in 1 Year from now?

#6 If I could change ANYTHING about MYSELF in regards to financial domination what would it be?

#7 What other fetish or BDSM interests do you have besides financial domination?

Please type down the answers to the questions without censoring them first. (Yeah right I know most will polish them up to look nicely)

Here were my first thought answers!

#1 Why are you involved in financial domination?

Because I get turned on by the feeling it gives me to take money from men who had to work so very hard to make it. I enjoy taking what they treasure the most (money) and using it for my personal enjoyment and advancement. Because I love being spoiled and not having to worry half as much about making money to get the things I would like to have and need. Because I feel deep down that I am worth every penny and more then I receive and in the course of my other fetishes and training, I am due the money for the time I spend. Because I love financial domination and holding control over material power and possessions of others. Because I enjoy being the complete opposite of what I was always taught to be, with other words instead of a nice girl that always gives, gives, gives and gets used all the time by guys, I finally allow myself to be the taker and be greedy. Because it gives me a high like you would never believe to have a submissive / fetishist or slave beg to hand me his hard earned cash and to know that I am giving him the biggest orgasm (mentally) of his life as I graciousely accept it. Because it is now at my later stage in life a part of me. Because I love money and you love me! Because, being glorious costs money and my slaves should find it necessary to pay for me. Because to me financial domination is not a stand alone, but a tie in fetish and everything I do costs money, so it is only natural for me to require a payment for my time and my training. Because I have always had my real time slaves, my formerly owned slave begift me from their own free will and that was simply part of their slavery. These days they call it financial domination, I used to see it as simply being part of being a slave.

#2 Am I happy participating in financial domination?

Off and on these days. I get very often extremely disappointed and frustrated by the lies, the fakery and the trying to be better then anyone else I see happening. I enjoy those boys and Ladies who are truthful, honest and forth right in their behaviors and speech, but have a hard time adjusting to the new breed of online financial domination and submission. I find it disturbing that financial domination has been so destorted and has become such an elitist fantasy play instead of a true adoration of the Goddess within us. I hate gameplayers and am often too straight forward for my own good, costing me potential submissives and piggies, but then I am thinking again that those who would rather have text book words are not worth my time anyways.

#3 How often have I been disappointed in the last 12 month by financial Dommes or subs?

Truthfully at least 90% of the time out of the folks I meet from both sides. So many are simply fronters and then we have those who love to destroy the reputation of another only because they think differently then they do. I miss the Sisterhood of Dommes / Mistresses / Goddesses that we used to enjoy. Yes, women by their nature are always a bit catty and sadly very back stabbing, but as of late it has become even worst then it used to be. As far as the subs go? Well, I see very few true submissive males anymore and often just hear them uttering text book grab at me, or tell me what they think I want to hear. Seldom are promises followed through to the end or the go for looks alone rather then knowledge. Shrugs..it is a grab shoot really, but those that are legit and please me (both Ladies and subs) since I often feel like a bit of a matron around here anymore, make all the others worth while.

#4 What was the biggest lesson I learned during the last 12month online?
Don’t belief anything anyone on the web tells you and promises you. Keep your real life lessons close to your heart, because they go double online. Nothing online ever is what it appears to be. Fantasy is out of hand online, and the subs really have no idea of what they are getting into. They want, want, want but can not really figure out what that want is, then get pissed off at you when you are actually give them what they ask for. Power around here seems to be located in a piece of folds between a women’s legs online, instead of her mind…or so the guys seem to think, and sadly there is more judgementality in BDSM / Fetish these days then there has been in Church…YUK

#5 Where do I see myself in regards to financial domination in 1 Year from now?

I will be still around and it will still be part of me and what I do. Since I am not just putting it on as a cape to take off if I don’t get rich. I will in due time find my group of 13 Acolytes to fill my temple halls the way I desire and will hopefully be able to travel without a worry thanks to their deligent work and tributes to me. With other words, I hope that in a year from now I will finally be treated like the ultimate Goddess I see myself as. (not that any other Goddess is less then me, I am simply seeing my own best side of me. I hope you do too for yourself). It will become even stronger integrated in the various other fetishes I have and I hope to take it more real time again, if I can get out of the location I am currently residing in. I am going to become even more well known then I already am, both online as well as real time again, coming out of semi seclusion and be known not for my Tits and Ass, but for the Domme / Goddess I am.

#6 If I could change ANYTHING about MYSELF in regards to financial domination what would it be?
Be a little less giving and a lot more taking, but that is not something I can change because care for my piggies and subs is a natural behavior for me.

Your turn, both sides!

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On a Side Note.
Goddess is going on Vacation to Estes Park August 20th to Sept 5th. To Mr. Cherry Pie, whom I hope is reading this post I would like to make a request for you to verify the funds with Alertpay you have begifted me. They want to make sure you received your product. Please take care of that for me. Thank you.!

Gone fishing for money!

Hello my little puppets, honored fellow ladies and a few people who I don’t care about one way or the other. LOL, quiet the address isn’t it. The facts are the facts however. I know who and what is lurking half the time on my Blogs and I can always see when my traffic increases to my Blogs.

Most of the time it is an outrageous Blog post that makes your poor cocks stiff and the ladies think if this is something they want to try for themselves. Stop right there buster before you take that wrong. I am not calling anyone a Copycat here, matter of fact that gets on my last nerve most of the time. There is very little in human nature that has not been done before, I don’t think any of us hold patents on what is being done. What is unacceptable however is the theft of “content or words”. With other words, do you own damn talking or thinking! If you want to copy mine then give me a damn link back and the credit.

So today’s topic is: Gone fishing for money!

I am talking about the base down advertisements, marketing skills and bragging posts of financial domination that you will find all over the internet, forums, websites etc. You have different types of financial Dom/mes (yes you keep forgetting that guys are often in this as well. Gays actually are a lot more generous with their Masters then most straight / bi subs are with their Mistresses) as I have mentioned many times before.

For some it is “the fetish they enjoy” and truly don’t care all that much if they do make money or gifts or not. They just like the attention and the begging turns them on. For them it is their “lifestyle”, but they enjoy the journey so much more then the destination.

Your fulltime Financial Dom/mes, who have almost specialized into this and they are both turned on, empowered and yes very business like about this endeavor. Those are the ones you will see advertising more, marketing their particular skills and be in your face about it.

You Sugar Babies posing as Financial Dom/mes. Now there is nothing wrong with being a Sugar Baby if you want to let yourself go down that path, but it is not financial domination in any way. However, they too are heavily advertising themselves and more often then not their marketing skills truly are up to par.

And then you have the cross in betweens of course.

Now, as you can guess I am in the second category with a bit of first category mixed in. I am very much about the destination, but surely enjoy the journey as well. However, it is part of my fulltime profession and hence I do demand to be paid for my time.

In many ways it is as if I am selling a Product I believe in 100%. I have to believe in that product or I could not be affective at selling it. The Product is ME, my time and yes my skill as a manipulative, seductive, powerful and knowledgeable Financial Domme.

If I do not believe in myself, then I am not only going to sink, but will also let others walk straight over me. Ever since “financial domination” has become popular and almost mainstream, it has changed a lot from what it used to be. Now it is really more about the instant gratification of the submissive then the adoration and worship of the Mistress. It has largely become a “TRADE” to be completed. Don’t even bother putting your nose up in the air about that one. This is fetish straight talk, remember?

No Mistress is going to waste her time anymore with “subs” for long until they have proven to be worthy of her attention. You see with so much written text on the internet, any idiot now can read and repeat what they find. Nobody can tell on the internet if that person is real, truly feeling what they say or not. You are hidden behind a big smoke screen and largely it becomes an illusionary feat. So, is it prudent to not get too invested into a new seeker? I would say so.

But what about the submissives? How can they find out if the Lady is real or not. DO YOUR HOMEWORK! I have said that so often before. Research the lady a little. A Website alone doesn’t make you a financial Domme. A famous name or being on tons of financial domination fetish sites doesn’t either. You can brag about your accomplishments until the cows come home and it still can be made up or copied.

However, have a chat with the person sometime in one of the Chat rooms sometime and really listen to how she answers questions. Can she answer question. See where all you can find her on the internet. Does she have other interests? How is she represented?

This will tell you a lot about this person. I am all over the internet under Goddess Bella Donna, Regina Sunderland (my real name and the one I write under), Mysteria on Niteflirt and several others. I interlink just about everything I do, so you can get the big picture of who you are dealing with.

If you want to chat with me in private on my Yahoo Messenger you can, but be prepared to at least show your appreciation of my work and time.

Reality is that NOTHING is ever for FREE. Not for me and not for you either. You want to be turned on and I want your money. You love me and I love your money. You amuse me (if you are lucky) or even your money won’t be enough to keep me sticking around.

I put a lot of time and effort into what I do. Again I am my own Product which I foster, develop, care for and yes market 150% of the Time. I will make a sell so to speak and you are my prospective “Costumer”, only you don’t get to call the shots. I DO.

Is there a money back guarantee? NO, although I had plenty of boys be shit heads and give gifts just to cancel them after they got off. That is also part of what you have to accept and deal with. Like I said…. Gone fishing for money.

Every time you see one of the Blog Posts coming up, it is fishing for money. Fishing for someone that a. has the funds to tribute, b. gets off tributing so he/she will return often, c. will amuse you so you are willing to deal with them repeatedly, d. advance you further both in mind and finances.

DON’T STOP THERE. Learning from what you have done wrong is also part of fishing for money. What is the ultimate Goal of a financial Domme? Come on think!

To find high quality piggies, cash cows, money slaves who are both willing and able to tribute her in an agreed upon fashion, who will be both amusing and loyal as much as possible. To find a “large” quantity of “tribute as they go” piggies (fly by boys or occasional financial fetishists who really are only into it for the quick satisfaction).
To have a decent to luxuries lifestyle that allows them to effectively find above named submissive and in the end have them help in providing the desired lifestyle, which in turn should give the submissive sublime pleasure and a feeling of success.

Here is the catch 22 however. By showing your intelligence and making yourself available to said submissives in more then the typical “Gimme write ups” you scare most of them to death. Greed they can deal with, half naked bodies they adore, a wicked mind is fantastic as long as it stays fetish oriented, but give them something they can actually “fall in love with” and it becomes scary.

Males by their very nature are “commitment challenged” and so you have to find the fine line between giving too much of your-self and not enough.

Finding your submissive piggies is really like fishing for fish. You need to find the right bait to lure them in, understanding the climate of the pond you are fishing in and if you see that it is too crowded with Fishermen cut bait and move on.
Remember that even the smallest fish is good for something, even if it just to “cut him up” and use him for bait for bigger fish. No I don’t want you to actually cut people up here, but I mean you have someone that adores you so much they can’t stop talking about you. Or you can tell them all about how he begged to serve you etc.
Readers eat that up, that is why so many posts are “glory posts”.

Use your mind wisely and don’t ever put all your eggs into one basket Ladies. Submissive males are much like children. They love to sample sweets, but are often unable to buy. Keep yourself innovative and new, but true to your personality.
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind, but be aware that there are 100’s of “Ladies” out there that are just waiting to cut you to shreds. So be able to back up what you are saying. There is nothing worst then a vicious tongue, understand what you are up against.

And realize that even so males are “disgusted” by that show of unladylike behavior it is just like female wrestling, they tune in to see the “”fly.

That is it for today. As always if you are going to use what I write, please give the copyright to me and a link back. I appreciate it.

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Ok, drum roll please! This is going to be partially one of these utter duh articles that most sadly still overlook! So in order to be my lovely self _ Captain Obvious_ , I have decided to type them down for those of you, who seldom think past the dick or the money!

#1 You forget the word Relationship in the equation!
There is a super big difference between a casual draining, a fly by tributing and actually building a financial domination Relationship that could / would go to full Ownership. Most seem to overlook the meaning of the Word Relationship in the equation here. Which simply means, you are not only getting together to drain, to stroke or to “get off”. You actually have to be willing to get to know the opposite partner in a “non-sexual”, “non-fetish” manner. Which means you have normal conversations and are “loyal” unless otherwise discussed. Mix in the fact that you won’t have “sex” unless you are actually real time, in a couple situation and that is part of your agreement (24/7, husband / wife – Mistress/Master / slave/ pet/ sub) and you have an entirely different dynamic all together. However, since males by their nature have a problem being comitted and staying comitted (biology / psychology – don’t make me pull proof and schoolbook texts) it is never easy to build and stay in a relationship that is “not hands on”. So you need to be doubly willing to work through the good, the bad and yes the ugly.

#2 The Brain is in the skippies!
I grinch, and I mean I grinch, everytime I read about stiffies in either genders underwear. It is a natural fact of life that you will get aroused and since this is an adult fetish definately has its place, but when it in the end comes down to just the “stiffness factor” then you have already lost the Game. Why? Because if someone can not think past their arousal, they will not be in it for the long run. They are always looking for greener grass on the other side. Now since most males seem to get off on having a lot of “brothers in service” that may not be a problem, until you can no longer “provide” that arousal for your Miss.

#3 Different Brain Waves!
If you have a Domina and a sub who are on two different Brain Waves, you might as well click the heels and go back to Kansas. In order for a longstanding Relationship to work, you do need at least the equal Brain Power in each. If you have a sub who is super smart coupled with a Domina that thinks being cute is all it takes, but her brains are a bit on the lower region you are asking for disaster. Eventually the Boobies and the Ass will stop dominating (usually right after the first orgasm) until the next “oh baby, baby I will do anything for you” comes along again. Remember that domination comes with the mind, not just with the body. Yes, you do have to have an attraction to each other. Personally, if I have to put a plastic bag over your body so I can stand being in the same room with you there is a problem. But come on, it isn’t all about the looks.

Turn that around. A Domina that is highly intelligent and has a sub for service that still has an issue putting two and two together, then there is an issue to. She will constantly be bored, aggravated and disappointed by him. He just doesn’t have what it takes. Likewise he will be hurt and frustrated, because he won’t know what the hell she wants half the time.

#4 Making it too complicated!
I know a few Ladies who pride them-selves on their over the top high standards. Those are wonderful for certain, but when you get into a Relationship you better learn to do some compromises. Again not fly by or casual drainings here, but relationships. Why? Because NOBODY is PERFECTION. Get over it already, that is a turn on catch phrase. If you are so darn perfect you wouldn’t be here, because the world would already know you as perfect and you would be too busy solving real problems besides what color you want to paint your toenails today, for which you need to take a poll. Ok, that was harsh, but sorry lets keep it simple.
Make your Rules with the old Wisdom in mind. You can’t win every battle, nor can you fight each battle. Make the decision which is the most important to you and stick to them. Make the Rules clear and remember that every humann being is different from each other, so keep that in mind.

#5 Can shaking mislabelments!
Yes, I am going there! There is a difference between constant can shaking and making your wishes known in a precise way. If you can’t speak up about what you want, (males seldom are good at taking hints by the way – sissy gurls are too wrapped up in their own panties to even notice the hint) then you will never receive it. But there is a difference between your entire life is one big … I want, I deserve, I have to have, gimme, gimme now … and a mention in between other information. Now EACH ONE OF US LADIES, will blog, talk, or tell you what we want. The difference comes in how it is done. Blessing to those of you Ladies who I just did misjustice too and you NEVER have asked for anything. I beg pardon! Don’t go highwire on me. But in general, if you are in a Relationship and all you do is ask for stuff and never give anything valuable in return, then keep those luggages backed for your next glamarous vacation, because your wallet boy is going to get tired of you sooner or later.

#6 Poor little hurt me….leave the baggage at the door!
I am one of the first to admit that I flat out say, that I am disgusted with most of the players on both ends. The reality is that out of 100 Dominas and subs you MAY find 10 who are at least trying to be real about it all, and out of those 10 you have 1 or 2 who are and are always trying to get better at what they do with the shifting times. Guess what, WE are HUMAN, WE are going to get HURT. So here is the deal. I will honestly tell you in the beginning that I don’t expect you to come through for me, now it is up to you to shock the shit out of me and proof me wrong. I am going to do my part to show you what type of DOMINA I am. That doesn’t mean I am the same sort as Lady Lovelylocks, Miss AllZAT, Mistress Kissmyass or Princess Loserfucker… I am me! I have my very own ways, my very own style and I love being who I am. Like I said before. I am not perfect, but Iam perfectly me. That is all you are getting, you don’t get more then that. So yes, sure tell me your woes once and then get over it already. If it becomes an excuse for breathing, please get out of the fetish for a while and relax for a bit. Heal first! You need to heal for your own good. Rebounds seldom work out.

#7 What the blazes do you want?
Guess what folks, we both need to know what we want. If you don’t know what you want from the opposite, then how can they give it to you?
I have gents come on here and complain that “We demand too much and that it is not good to constantly have demands made”, then you have the opposite two minutes later. “I want to be told to give…Make me! But don’t be pushy!” Fuck me a river boys. What the heck would you like? How about I create you a little computer you can load the photo of your favorite Porn Actress into and then compute what you feel like doing today. There you go, problem solved, hot and no brains but those you give her. Reality check lovebugs, you need to figure out what you want first then come at us and then find the right match.

Ladies, same thing. Either you want something or you don’t. If you can’t figure out what turns you on, (besides shopping and spending they guys money yadda yadda yadda – read some profiles sometime they are better then the sunday comics) they can’t give it to you. And please, please, please don’t be surprised when a boy calls you out if you are a bit on the silly side.

#8 The human factor!
If it becomes routine we are out of here. It takes both ends to work on a Relationship to make it sweet. Both ends…

#9 We only call them boys!
NO Tomato throwing please! Guess what, we only calls the gents on here, boys, bois, gurls etc. In reality I would hope that they are at least to a minimum adult men. With other words, stop treating them like they are your sons. Give a bit of credit to their intelligent, until of course they have proofen to you that they are retarded idiots who still need you to wipe their asses and tie their shoes. In that case you can have him. I raised my offspring, I am here to have a wonderful fun time with my subs. Personally I prefer a Warrior Sub to a little boy that thinks he can any day. Why? Because I know that he won’t fall apart the first time I tell him where he can shuff it. Please, the term boy is a turn on phrase. Remember the first powerful female influence in your life * your mother*…. You are not his Mother!

#10 Liar, Liar, Pants on fire!
Pay attention to shifts in conversations sometime. You see those that always agree, and can’t keep their own mind in one spot. There is a difference between seeing the reason behind something and agreeing that their is a valid point, and just saying oh yes… because so many others have. How is that being a Liar? Because you are lying to even yourself. Guess what, whatever you say you have to be able to stand behind. I have changed my opinions on a few things in the past as well, and have openly admitted to it, but then if you go back over my written records you can see where I personally want to just take a big fat stick and analize someone.
Lies, broken promises, wrongful presentation of facts, slander, annoying people just to get a reaction from them, being an idiot just to get attention all those are forms of lies and guess what need to be done as little as possible.

Looking for quick and easy money? Being a Pro-Domme / Financial Mistress is not the way to go.

I hear this so often and watch the indication that just because you are a Financial Mistress money is simply being handed to you. That all you have to do is sit on your ass and look powerful, quirk a smile and flip your finger and the bois just flock to your side. For some reason both bois and new to the fetish Girls seem to think that is the way it works and this is the way it goes.

I grant you that for a little while it might even work for you like that. I have seen plenty of 18 / 19 year old hard bodies capitalize on their looks and bratty behavior. Sure it isn’t hard to entice a cock into standing at attention when you are sitting there in Bra & Panties and your body has no signs of time on them yet. The guys’ stroke, you tease and show your-self, they get weak and tribute. A great solution? Only for a short time, because eventually that is not enough for those that are truly financial submissives, fetishists etc at heart.

Being a good Domme, either online or real time, takes a lot of dedication, a lot of hard work, a desire to really learn and grow constantly, a love for what you do and a certain flair that only comes not only with time, but with absolute enjoyment of what you do. In the long run you have to be able to cultivate relationships, that are often very difficult to maintain. You have to be able to constantly be creative, be able to put time aside for the training of your submissive male/female even when all you want to do is kick back and relax for a while.

What about the upkeep, the output, the considerable imagination you need to bring to the table? Just like with every other relationship, if you can’t keep it exciting and flowing, it will get old quickly. You need to be able to understand human psychology; you need to understand behaviors of the various males you deal with. You need to be able to entice, become the strong partner without ever losing your feminine behavior.

You need to be able and willing to learn, to except defeat from time to time, to admit when you are wrong and get over yourself as well. As much as you need to be able to make those bois understand that their first priority should be to you, to serving you, to adoring and worshiping you, you need to understand and handle the flip side of it as well.

Being just a spoiled little brat like a Daddies Girl has nothing to do with financial domination in the long run! In the long run you need to be able to give back. What happens when your looks fail? What happens when the bois need something to entice other then your body? What then? How do you keep the flow moving forward strongly?
What about when life throws you curve balls? What happens when your submissive suddenly has issues that are strongly concerning him? Can you turn from greedy bitch to wise counselor and still not lose your integrity?

Regardless if I am training a financial submissive online or in real time, it will take up a lot of my time. Will I drain him during that time spend? Yes, I will, to certain degrees, but I am still learning him with each session we talk.

Not only do I need to get into his mind, be solidly lodged deep within, but I also need to be able to understand how he ticks. You see some are never more then a quick fix, they don’t make good subs. They really are more of a cock driven crowd.
You learn that when you drain them and then make them wait on you, while you go and take a bath, fix a meal. You will see if they have the time and frame of mind, to sit and wait for your return. A loyal sub, will do so gladly. If he must leave, there will be a message explaining what happened.

You have those that have excuses constantly, why they can’t do something for you. Are the really worth the trouble? That is up to you. When you deal with those that are good and large gift givers when they feel like it, but at others times just waste your time and won’t do as told, do you retain them or cut them off?

With other words you will have to learn to decide what is acceptable for you. It is really difficult to send someone away that has in the past has send tributes to you well and often, but then has for one reason or the other gone bad. It is just as difficult to sit there and take hours of your time to plan a session for someone that does not appreciate the fine work you have put into him in the end.

Finding a good match is so important. But how do you find those matches? How do you know if you will in the end be good for each other? You learn by watching, listening and learning about each other.

For me it takes intelligent behavior and a willingness to learn from me, to even be considered raw material. I have two sets of rules for my subs and I treat them accordingly to which set I use.

I have those that I know will never last it out with me. They are just not that type of person. They amuse me with their cash value, but that is just about it. I would be a plan liar to say that I don’t enjoy using them for what they have to offer me, but past that they are no use to me. I can’t really have any good conversations with them, because we have nothing in common. They are just not on my level of wisdom and have no desire to ever get there. They don’t care about anything other then getting a quick fix and their rocks off. With other words, they are useless to me for anything other then the money and gifts I can get out of them. Since I refuse to lie, there is no harm done. You will know if I find you in that category, because if you are I won’t talk to you for longer then 2 minutes unless you tribute to me.

The other category are those that I consider raw potential for a long haul. I enjoy our every day conversations. We can talk about hobbies, spend time in each others company and I know much about them in a short time. They truly put my welfare, both physically and mentally first and are willing to do whatever it takes to make my life just a little easier. Those are the ones I adore and don’t mind spending time with from time to time, without any tribute at all. They usually have their set tributes once a week, once a month and I give them playtime when I desire to do so. Neither is ever requested. They do their part and I do mine. There is no force or push behind it, it happens naturally. Those are also the ones I set sessions up for on my own, look for them to check in with me sometimes daily. I hear about their day. For them it is truly a relationship that is being build up slowly and carefully.

You see that the word time and effort comes up a lot. I will make a statement that may not work for everyone, but if I would count the amount of time I put into my financial domination and the money and gift value I receive in return I can tell you that most months after dividing time and money I don’t even make minimum wage.
Does this sound like something that is easy money?

In essence, it is something that is not always exciting either. There are days when you almost have to force the issues with your piggies. It is as if you are dealing with a spoiled child that suddenly decided that you were being a bad mommy. Sounds a bit silly, but truly you need to understand that bois are very needy creatures.

So ladies if you think you will turn this into yet another get quick rich scheme keep thinking and looking. Bois if you think those initial $25 to $100 Tributes that so many of you bitch about is too much, then let me assure you that a Psychiatrist or Sex Therapist would charge you double the amount…and trust me I am much better.

When guys first start out in financial fetish it is often a very confusing time for them. Getting a chubby just by thinking about being used for your money, drained of all your funds and having your wallet raped is one thing, but if you are planning on doing more then just think about it, you need to start thinking with both of your heads.
Now that may be a silly thing to tell you as a financial Domme, but I prefer for you newbies to be educated and stay safe within this particular fetish.

Financial domination is a fetish by the way and can either be as a stand alone stimulus or as a tie in with other BDSM or fetish related scenes. Do not confuse financial fetishism with being a Sugar Daddy either. A sugar daddy loves to spoil his lady, but he expects things in return and wants to call the shots. A financial fetishist does not act or should not think that way.

If you have the financial fetish bug, then it is just like any other addiction. I mean if you are truly deeply turned on by it, it is just as important to you as for a “regular vanilla” guy to have sex. You will not be able to just walk away from it and if you do you will be truly feel it as a major loss. For that reason you need to be smart when you find your Lady.
A D/s relationship is like every other relationship with a few minor differences. Sex is not by its nature important in a D/s relationship in this area. But that is individual to each couple. I for one will not allow absolute and 100 % chastity or abstinence for life, in fact I even insist that my slaves have physical release and cum, but they will never ever have sex with me. If sex must be part of it, I will find them or couple them with an appropriate partner or they will have a romantic life partner. That is not my place nor my desire. I am married myself and my sexuality (body) is for my “God” only. Remember I consider myself a Goddess – he is my consort!

Now what should you do when you first start out?
Read, read a lot. Matter of fact read just about everything you can get your little hot hands on. Read the blogs of the ladies you find interesting, read what they write in chat rooms. Read responses they give to others. Do they have anything of value to offer, or is it just simpering cyber babble? Can they hold and intelligent conversation with you that does not purely consist of “Pay my …. you Loser!”. Now that may be a turn on to you, but will not last in the long run. Think past the obvious attraction. A beautiful hottie with a size 40DD chest and a 25 inch waist, that has no more brains then a Venus fly trap may make wonderful eye candy, but is it not the best option for someone that will govern your finances and your life.
Ruination is one of the “sexiest” facets of this fetish …actually in that case it would be considered financial masochism, but it is also one of the most fool hardy. If you go for total ruination, not only are you fucking your life up, but you will also become completely absolute to the lady you have given all your money to. The type of female who will allow you complete ruination is not interested in your welfare nor is she interested in you. You are nothing more to her then a literal ATM. When you run dry she is gone and you better not complain because she never lied about her being a predator to you. That is what drew you to her in the first place. Now you may have the strongest hard on during the session, but allow me to point out that when you can’t eat for a week, pay your bills or have the creditors knocking on your door, it stops being funny.

So what can you do? Simple, find a solid and careful solution. Go for a long term arrangement. If you need the financial deplete find a lady who is capable of providing you with both. Find one who can control her-self and her greed. Make regular payments to her (weekly) but keep them smallish (anywhere from $50 on up in most cases). Then once a month you can have a feast. A nice financial rape. If she is solid and you and her have discussed your budget honestly, then she will not go over what you can take. She will make you short and hurt you a little, but your essentials will not be ravished and taken. With other words, you won’t have any play money for yourself for a week or two, but all your obligations will still be taken care off.

Don’t just jump into Ownership. If any lady wants to really own you without a trial period and training I have to wonder. I am very often reluctant with this word. Can I financially own you? Yes of course I can and I have done so on several occasions, but if you really want that it will take you several years of fullest service to me before I do. “You are mine” is not the same as ” I own you”. Take a consideration period or look if she talks to me about one. A consideration period is essentially a courting period. It is a getting to know period. I usually hold it at 90 Days.

Human facts shown me over many years, that guys and girls loose interest in each other after about 30 days as newness wears off. Suddenly things become more routine and here it will already show if this is a good match and she can keep your interest and you hers or not. By 90 days the first tremors are gone and now it depends on if she is truly worth her salt. Are you looking forward to speaking to her or not. Is she reasonably available to you even when you are not on a payday? Is she grateful and generous with her praise? Do you feel good about giving her your money, not just the excitement of it, but even after? Do not get confused, doubt and guilty feelings…the feelings I am pathetic and what an idiot are normal after large drainings for a sub, but in general does it make you happy to please her?
Are you looking for ways to do things for her without her asking you and having to nag you? Is she constantly demanding things even when she knows you can not afford it? Do you find excuses to not do your assignments for her and pay her her due or are you looking for ways to make even more for her, because you feel she deserves better?

Your answers will show you the way. If you don’t feel like her welfare is the most important thing to you or that you are appreciated for what you do. If she is to good to say thank you for your hard work and the gifts, then perhaps you need to reconsider your choices.

You need – MUST – feel content in your choice or it is not the right one.

Money and what is appropriate.
Each lady has a different view on this so I can only give you a ball park figure on mine. Since I have a purely financial fetishists as well as worker/financial submissives I take everything on a person to person basis.
I usually suggest that a regular tithe would be around 10% of their net income. Some of course can not afford that and for them I will ask that they do some work for me as well. The more work you are willing to do for me, the more lax I am going to be with money. However, you will be required to pick up at least one position for me. Make it appropriate.

Now picking a position is not during the consideration period unless you wish it to be. I do not expect it. I do however expect you to learn, work hard and pay your regular dues.

Yes, I know that word payment is not as sexy as tribute, tithe or gift. But there is a reason I use this word. I would have to request a payment to be made to me regularly, consider it dues to the membership into my stable if you must. However I prefer tributes, gifts and tithe. Those however I would never have to ask for or request. Those are done and given freely and generously without the lady saying a thing. This is where a supplicant shows his true desire to serve me. Those who do not make payments, but tribute to me are those who will be around a lot longer I can assure you.

Not because I decide it, but because they truly feel the need to please me. They wake up and go to bad thinking of me and to them my smile and praise is like the sun to them. I appreciate those piggies, subs or acolytes a lot more then one I have to force to do something.

Do not tribute to the first skirt who makes demands boys! Just as you must have respect, you can expect respect as well. Look around and like I said read. Take your time, but then get committed to one who is worth it.

A good match is essential to your happiness. You may find it surprising that the hottest chick on the block is not always the most obvious. Again know your motivation.

An initial tribute or a first tithe. I personally have set my options for first tribute high and have given you options to pick from, that is done for a reason. I want to see what you will do and which you will pick. I can tell by the option what your devotion to my desires are going to look like, if you are only surface deep or is you truly want me to be happy.

Welcome to the Financial Domination Magazine!

If you are new to financial domination I hope you will take the time to look around, read as many Articles as possible and find your personal spot in this very costly and time consuming fetish. Costly for the Piggies that is and time consuming for the Ladies governing you.

This Blog has its birthday on December 30th 2008 and I hope will grow in leaps and bounds as I bring to you in my own slightly snappish style of writing the good, the bad and the ugly as I have seen and experienced it.

By the way thank you to Goddess Sue who in a moment of unguarded thoughts mentioned to me that reading my forum posts were like reading a Column at a Financial Domination Magazine.  So for good or bad, here it is.

Thank you for visiting!

Goddess Bella Donna