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Ever so often I have someone come onto my yahoo Messenger with not only an attitude, but also the idea that just because they like the way I look they will now start serving me. Further more they think that serving me, means blowing verbal sunshine up my beautiful behind. Then when I don’t swoon over such foolish advances, I get rudeness. After putting them in their place, takes about 30 seconds usually, because really they don’t get allotted much more time then that from me having already struck out twice at that point I get the next “fishing” question. What is next? So how do I serve you?

In order to solve this problem once and for all, allow me to simply give you my STEP BY STEP GUIDE to successfully wooing and serving THIS GODDESS. Please keep in mind that each one of us has a different style, a different set of requirements and often times a different public facade. I simply prefer to lay it all out on the table ahead of time. I don’t need to play nice up to possible servants. Those who can not take my bluntness, my demands won’t be able to last me out anyways. So why waste my time, with someone who will not make me happy? Again, I am in it for ME, not to give you free spank you monkey time. Sorry, but Goddess Worship combined with strict financial slavery is not about (wait for it and insert space for dramatic effect here), blowing sunshine up your ass guys. I leave the making excuses for the boys to others now, I did my part in the past. Right now I am a bit busy, but try again next lifetime. So if you want to actually really serve me, let me repeat that statement, IF YOU ACTUALLY WANT TO REALLY SERVE ME, not just waste both of our time or be a fly by, then read those step by step instructions carefully.

1. Before approaching me on Yahoo Messenger or via email, do your homework first! With other words, actually know what you want from me before coming on, trying to be sleek. I am an old hand at this game boys. I have been bullshitted by boys much sleeker then you. No more, hence the cold shoulder now. Homework is such a hard word for many of you, so you can also call it research if you like. This research should include: Knowing what areas of BDSM you are actually interested in. If financial Domination is not for you, don’t come to me. MY TIME COSTS MONEY PERIOD! If you prefer to pay for counseling instead we can call it that, but then I will charge you by the minute period. See LIVERPERSON! Figure out what you have to offer me and that includes all your gifts you lay before me. Your loyalties, your talents, your thoughts, your intelligents and your material tributes you will be providing me with. RESEARCH ME! For Goddess sakes, before spouting off at the mouth, find out who I am, what interests me, what I have done. It is all there! All over the internet. It is basic 101 for service. YOU SHOULD want to know everything you can before kneeling. If you come to me, stating that you have only seen my website http://www.GoddessBellaDonna.com and you are only there because your insignificant cock is now hard, you already lost my interest! Amaze me, tell me things you learned about me. My vanilla writing, my other websites etc. Show me that you are actually interested in the Goddess, not just getting your damn dick off. YOUR COCK is only interesting to me when I torture it! PERIOD!
2. Now let us say you been a good boy and have done your research and have actually something interesting to tell me. By all means contact me! INSIDE MY PIGGY HEAVEN! There is a lovely chat room you can reach only via the front entrance and via your sign in. (Don’t bookmark it, it is set up that you have to go through the front entrance each time so those who are not paying further can’t reach it after their time is up). Which means you will need to verify to me that you are at least 18 Years old and that you are able to tribute. You may use the $39.99 a months option if you like or a one time tribute for $50.00, but regardless you will not get my time after I have ordered you to join Piggy Heaven outside of the Chat room until I get to know you. You see how easy that is? Now you are age verified and spending verified to me. PLUS you guys get clips, photos, mp3’s etc. I am not asking you for your cash without giving you a lot in return here. Once you have signed up you can come to Yahoo Messenger and let me know you are there, and I will join you if I am available at that moment, or I may just wait for you inside. Either way, it is on my time not yours! If you can not join Piggy Heaven for whatever personal reason, maybe you are scared your significant other will find out, then don’t come empty handed to me! Bring me a token Tribute at base minimum. Make certain it is something I WANT not something you think I should have. Can’t figure out what that is? ALERTPAY.com (CASH) to shalamarsdream@cox.net if always great and my first preference. Alertpay is just like PayPal, they just don’t have the no adult clause. (OH and I should warn you that if you EVER CANCEL your Tribute you are done with me Period). AMAZON.COM E-Certificates to GoddessBellaDonna@cox.net is fine as well. GREENDOT MONEY PACKS give me the numbers and they better be good. Outside of that, I love E-Giftcards to just about any Book store, EBAY, BED & BREAKFAST Company etc. You have enough choices here!
3. Now you have shown me you are able and willing to tribute, and it is time to get to know me. Inside my Piggy Heaven are also my open online and real time positions listed which I have currently available. Pick one if you would like and apply for it to me. Be prepared to answer me questions. Don’t give me standard text book answers either. I want to know what you have to say for yourself, not what someone else wrote down for you.
4. From there it goes on a case to case basis. If you are purely money piggy, expect to be drained whenever I feel like it.

OH and before I forget it. If you decided to be one of those that disappear a lot from service without saying good bye, or letting me know what is going on. You will find that I can be very strict and very demanding if you return. So if you don’t have manners, don’t come to me in the first place.

If you are married, then be aware that females are only so stupid for so long. You will run the risk of ruining your marriage, don’t come crying to me when you do. YOU BETTER BE SURE you can serve me fully and keep your home running properly before coming to me. I have no mercy or regards for fuck ups.

NOTE: I will be cross posting this on my Goddess Bella Donna Temple Blog, and several other places. So don’t start commenting that you saw it somewhere else. I have about 15 Websites, it is very possible you saw it somewhere else. It however better have had the names Goddess Bella Donna, Mysteria or Regina Sunderland under it or it is not legit.
As always my words are not to be posted anywhere else without the proper link to me, and credit to my Name. This is intellectual property!

Greetings to A/all!

Goddess BellaDonna invited me to author some material, from a subbie’s point of view, about getting started in Financial Domination. I am a member over at MyFinancialDommeSpace, a social networking site for FinDommes and financial submissives… which is how GBD and I became acquainted. I joined the site in December 2008 and have enjoyed it immensely since!  I am honored to have been invited over here and hope that you may find helpful some of the things that I’ve gone through as a relative newbie to FinDom!

I have a background in “traditional” BDSM, having seen ProDommes (mostly one in particular) regularly since the mid 1990’s. However, I had not participated in FinDom in any of that time… and had in fact even had a negative view of this fetish for a while! Inadvertently, I had violated a creed of mine that goes something like this: “Don’t trash someone else’s kink, as you would not want the same done to you”.

Even though I had a somewhat negative view of the fetish, perhaps colored by the growing legions of what might be called “insta” Dommes (here only for a hit and run, get rich quick scheme on unwitting submissives), I had secretly fantasized about the CONTROL aspect of it. Control and power exchange are the two items that “make me tick” in general BDSM… the mental aspect that make me want to drop to my knees, to submit, to give over whatever power I maintain in the vanilla world to my Mistress.

Giving money over, with no expectations of anything in return, is really one of the most selfless acts of submission there is. I was curious to try this, so when I happened upon MyFinancialDommeSpace while randomly surfing the net one day… I thought I would give it a go and see what happened. Much to my surprise, the community there was welcoming and receptive!

I met several wonderful Dommes, and a few fellow subbies there too. The advice that GBD offers in previous articles here about taking things slowly rather than jumping in straight away and promising the sun and moon to the first hot Goddess that crosses your path is solid and should be REQUIRED reading for any subby out there.

I’ve been blogging on MFDS as well, and here’s some excerpts of one I posted that, from experience, I would offer as advice to newbies joining a social network like MyFinancialDommeSpace:

PROFILES

I can’t stress enough how much filling out a profile helps avoid wasting ANYONE’S time. Both for the subbie, and for the Dommes out there. It can be done without divulging info that could be used for unscrupulous purposes… either by other Dommes for unconsensual blackmail, or by unsuspecting vanilla people googling you.

Do treat anything you put on the internet as potentially falling into anyone’s hands. However, as long as you don’t do something really foolish like put your real name, your work email alias, or something else in your profile or board handle that would immediately associate you with the info… profile info here should be relatively safe. I chose a relatively off the wall handle for this purpose… and to boot, ended up misspelling it a bit unintentionally! However, it has a decent side-effect of being less likely to show up for a google search that I hadn’t intended to be the target of. Guess it makes someone too nosy for their own good have to work a bit harder at it

Don’t use one word responses or leave important sections blank. You’ll either get no interest, or perhaps some attention from “hit and run” types that don’t care about compatibility or more so about just a quick wallet drain. I’ve found that having a reasonably-filled out profile… done honestly… has helped me to get in contact with those that share similar views on this fetish. And it’s likely helped those who don’t share them to avoid wasting their valuable time on me in return (hehe).

Oh… and do be honest about likes, limits, etc. Especially limits. It helps parties determine right away if it is worthwhile to better get to know each other, or just move on with a minimum of fuss and time being wasted!

On the other side of the fence… Seeing a Domme’s profile helps me get a feel for her personality, style, interests, etc. It’s great for basic info and not having to waste her time with the same bazillion questions she’d get asked repeatedly in chat or messages by potential subbies. Even non-scene stuff like musical and literary interests are fun to see… it gives some nice ice-breaker things to talk about. I would tend to just pass up and move along if I saw a one line profile like “Losers… how much do you make… send it to me NOW”. Probably just like a Domme would move along if she saw a subbies profile empty or with one word responses to everything that doesn’t really help her much.

FORUMS/CHAT/OTHER SITE FEATURES

Before you chat up a Domme, take the time to read the forums (if your site offers such a feature). See what is talked about. There are often topics related to advice or experiences from both Dommes and subs that are helpful to read. You’ll also get a sense of who knows their stuff, what the personality and interests of the person behind the screen name are, and so on. Someone who participates in the site actively may be more likely to be genuinely interested in bdsm and FinDom rather than just a “cash and dash” type looking for quick payday at your expense. If you’re looking for some interaction with a Domme, these participants are your likely best bets

MyFinancialDommeSpace has a “poll” feature that can be very insightful to get a feel on how a Domme feels about issues or philosophy within the fetish. Participate and read the responses of others. You’ll get to see if you and your candidate Domme ”agree” a lot of the time. If you do, that’s a good sign! If not, maybe you should think twice and consider someone more compatible.

Groups can be worthwhile too. These generally focus on a specific sub-fetish or interest. Join some that interest you and see who belongs to these. Groups can be a good sign of shared interests and fetishes. Some sites have chat rooms… these can be useful to get to know people too in a safe, anonymous way.

Obviously, there are many ways (or sites) to meet Dommes online. Even YouTube has a fairly large collection of videos that Dommes put up to “express themselves”. For me, joining a social site like MyFinancialDommeSpace was invaluable to help sort out the skilled Dommes from those that don’t really know what they’re doing (other than grabbing your cash and going, that is). I’d highly recommend going this route!