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I have been very pleased to have had the opportunity for some rather lengthy phone and chat conversations with one of my newest protégées, as well as a highly intelligent new servant of my Temple.

During those conversations, we have discussed some of the hardships new submissives as well as Dommes encounter as they embark on their journey. Often times someone will be judged by their beginning, their origin so to speak. I would like to point out a few things here which may offend a lot of people, but are never the less the truth.

#1 No one was born with either a collar around their neck or a crop in their hand. You may have been born with an attitude, a personality trade that in the long run has guided you towards this station, but that is all. There are millions of people all over the world, who by their nature are timid, gentle, submitted to their partners and are not interested or suited to being a submissive or slave. Likewise, there are millions of assertive, powerful and strong willed individuals, who are bossy, leaders etc., but are not interested in being either a Master or a Mistress. It is part of their mental makeup, but not a lead into a kinky or at least this sort of kinky lifestyle.

#2 We ask in this lifestyle or fetish realm for understanding, claim an open mind, want to tell the world that we are superior in our open mindedness, and yet it is often we who in the end condemn others for their lifestyle choices, beginnings and other jobs. I have been guilty of this myself a time or two, but am working very hard to stop this upsetting and downright juvenile behavior trait in me.

#3 The Titles do not make you a dominate person, but the power within does. You can read thousands of books on how to behave, how to speak, how to swing a flogger, tie a knot etc., but if you do not have the inner power, the understanding of the responsibility you take on for another human being, the love of what you do, and most of all the desire to be yourself, then you really are no more then a pretender. In financial domination, you run into a wide array of financial submissives / fetishists as well as Mistresses/Masters. Each one of them is different from the next. For some you need to be bossy, demanding and have an attitude from hell. With others, you win them more with kindness and understanding. A third one still, will only do what they want and when they feel like it. Those by the way are fetishists not submissives or slaves! In many ways, you need to be a reader of humanity, a psychologist and therapist all in one. You need to be able to be flexible, but true to your path. I for one lack the natural entitlement attitude so many Mistresses have. I do not feel that just because I slapped the name Goddess before my name it is your sworn duty to serve me. Matter of fact, if that is the only reason you would even do it, then I don’t even want you. I believe in giving back for what I receive. Karma is a real bitch and when you are the one always taking, she will take more from you then you can phantom. I do not fear this at all, because I have never taken more then I have returned in “value” to those who serve me loyally. My power and wisdom, my dominance comes from age old wisdom that is deep inside my very feminine core. I have found my path from the ashes that is my past. Trust me; my path would have reduced many of you to nothing.

#4 It really is all in the way you see things. I used to be an Erotic Dancer, a Burlesque dancer in many ways if you will in my late teens to early 20’s, and it is there that I have met and found my very first submissive client. Matter of fact, it was this particular gentleman who prompted me because of my being to learn, and embrace that part of my nature. I have been part of the adult industry in one version or the other ever since I was 18 Years old and in many ways I still consider myself part of it. I film clips for sale, does that not make me a “Porn Actress”? I move my voluptuous, beautifully chubby body to music while teasing you on my webcam, my clips, or while you are very uncomfortably tied up on my whipping post. My clothe are on, or maybe if I feel particularly generous my top may be off, but you can NEVER touch me. This is considered part of tease and denial. Part of BDSM, part of exotic dancing. Let me push you back a little further. Do you know who to me the very first financial Domme in history truly was? The famed biblical dancer Salome. She extracted a price so high, so dear only for the privilege of her beauty and dance. And there were probably many more before her. We frown down on exotic Dancers, on Webcam Entertainers etc. Is it the title of the occupation that we hate, or the way they have freed themselves from our own restrictions?
I will do a scene with a submissive via my Webcam, in a Web chat room. I will not give more or less than I am willing to give. I will tease, encourage, deny… for money. I will take the fee for my time. Am I really any different? You can be, and I often have been in the past, both. A powerful Domme and a Webcam / Film Entertainer, it is all in the way you present yourself and hold yourself.

#5 Nobody is as great as I! Oh please, get over yourself. You may have a better body than me, you may be younger or older than me, you may have a different bag of tricks than me, but darling you are not the greatest. There is always ONE who will be greater in someone else’s eyes. We are ALL great in our own way. Even our submissive counterparts, are wonderfully made to compliment us perfectly. I am only superior to you, because you have deemed me to be that way. I am only your Goddess, because you have seen something worthy of worship in me. Does that make you scum beneath my feet or a treasure to behold? Financial domination is Goddess Worship or God Worship in a very old religious way if you please. Think Church for a second. Do you not pay your weekly tithe? Why do you do this? Well, when my acolytes come to bring their gifts of appreciation to me, when I ask them for a token for my time I spend with them, then this is really no different. Their life has been enriched multiple times by my being who I am, by my allowing them to live out their fantasy, their fetish at my glorious feet. My Life has been enriched by their worship, their devotion and their money. I serve in a perversion of the term, those that serve me. Get a true grip on reality, we each serve the other. Neither would be filled without the counterpart. Could you live without having a Goddess to serve as a sub? Of course you could. You would probably have a lot more spare money, but your life would be devoid of something very precious. Someone you can adore, worship, work for, come to and more. In one simple statement, you have been given a special reason for being who you are. Likewise, can I as a Goddess live without you as my subs? Yes, of course I can. My life would be a lot less stressful; I would do a lot less worrying, caring, teaching etc. I spend endless hours with my boys, writing these Articles, editing my photos, posting my teachings etc. I work 10 to 12 hours and many of those hours I will never be paid for. But I would be missing something, if I would not have a reason to do this. Without my subs, I am not whole either. Never believe that we don’t need you. We just won’t but up with inadequate service. WE may feel filled with a good and worthy, a devoted and loving submissive, but it doesn’t have to be YOU!

#5 Instas, bratty princesses and veterans. Well, let me put it this way. If there wasn’t a sub who is looking to serve them, then they wouldn’t exist. Each one in turn has a reason for being. For many we all have to be a bit of all rolled into one if we want to step further. I remember, pretending at age 18Years old that I had experience as a dancer so I would get hired. I know just what to say, how to dress, how to behave. I got all that out of a book, and by watching Shows about it. I pulled it off nicely and got the job. I was an INSTA EXOTIC DANCER for about 1 Week and then I became a newbie. I started learning my own way, found my own groove, became comfortable enough in my own skin to let people know that I really was clueless and that all I had done was just by imitating what I had read and seen. I am often upset by the success those “INSTA” Dommes have, but is it really their fault or mine, for being so damn uptight? I envy those girls who can simply stick their middle finger in the air, pout, stump their feet and demand to be spoiled. And some silly older guy who probably will give anything just for the moments’ attention of a young girl again, because he is trying to recapture his youth. Is that their fault? No it isn’t, it works for them and they do what they set out to do. To make as much money in as short of a time as they can. If I think about it, I should not envy them, but pity them. Because if they don’t grow up, find their own style, become deeply dominate within, then they will be out of the “Industry” as soon as they get older. Not a good prospect. I do not have as many submissives knocking down my doors as they doubtlessly do, because I am a lot more intimidating then they are. When one comes to me, he comes in awe, in fear and is often a bit scared. They do not come to me because of my looks and pouts alone, but because of the power and inner shine they noticed in me. It comes through ladies, it does. The day where women in their 30’s are over the hill and no longer thought of as sexual is over. We truly have a lot up on the younger generation, because we have the experience, the understanding and the power they have yet to gain. Each generation, each age group has its benefits. We simply have to quit hating on each other and learn to benefit from it. When I am 60 Years old, I will still draw submissive males and females to me. Not because of my looks, but because I am wise, loving, demanding, sweet, cruel, enticing and ultimately powerful. This will never go away, contrasting to my looks, which will fade in time.

I am extremely proud of my beginnings. I have seen and done things, that I may wish would not have been necessary, but I have learned so many things from them when it comes to males thinking, behavior, needs and games, which many more “proper ladies” will not be privy to. We each had a path we needed to walk to get to the end of our Journey. Instead of looking down on each other, being spiteful and hateful, why don’t we reach out and help each other? I have started taking on the occasional younger lady as my protégées. I can only teach them what I have experienced myself and encourage them to find their own path. I am currently setting up workshops for those interested in learning from me. Both genders, both stations (sub or Dom) are welcome. I will bring you back to the basics, and build you up from there. Not from a politically correct view, but from a loving power that will leave you both empowered, more secure in your own gifts and ready to conquer those who are less then worthy of your time. Of course I am also going to teach you about etiquette, protocols, how to establish rituals etc. Basic rope bondage or leather restraining and the essential Goddess Worship among many other things.

I am gearing this towards wives and their husbands, who would otherwise be too shy to ask someone. I am encouraging those of you who are “insta” at this moment and really want to learn from someone who will not think you submissive, just because you want to know what the flogger on your skin feels, or how it feels to be on the bottom.

I am offering this to those, who really want to make a difference in the coming up generation and are willing to listen with an open heart.

My workshops are not cheap, but they are also not outrageously expensive. Stay tuned for further information on them.

As always… this is my copyright material. If you are going to use it, please give me the credit for it and a link back. Thank you.

I was not planning on doing this, but I am so super proud of the fact that I do have to take a moment of shameless self-promotion.

My very first erotic fictional BDSM Extreme Book I ever wrote is now for Sale on Amazon.com. I am so pleased, so proud, so happy about that fact that I just had to share it with you.

Title: All in Time – Book 1 Egypt

Description: When on an Archeological Dig an Amulet is found. It is kept in the tent where I sleep near by. Suddenly I wake up in ancient Egypt. From the Bath house to the Slave Auction, my training and uses are not for the faint of heart. I am pony trained, bound and analy used and much more. Cum and join my adventure in Egypt. The Tent of the Whip Masters awaits.
Publisher: Regina Kamrud
Copyright Year: © 2007
Language: English
Country: United States
Keywords: fictions, adult, bdsm, ponyplay, slave, masters, extreme, whip, Fiction, Literature, Erotica, S, M

Click here to purchase the Book!

This Book was written from the perspective of a female slave, so for those of you Sissy Gurls this may be fun as well to read. It was my first ever Adult Book released via Lulu.com Print on Demand Publishing Company, who have chosen my book last week and have made it available for sale via Amazon.

The Cost of the Book is only $9.50 plus S&H and I would love to see it being pushed up into the Amazon Best Seller List. So won’t you make me happy as a thank you for all the teaching and preaching I do here and do your part by purchasing a copy?

Thanks!

Goddess Bella Donna

I am going to try to do this as delicately as I can and yet still stay honest and straight forward. Financial Mistresses can fall prey to the economic crises just as easily as every other person out there. Since most of us are either luxury pets *that I what I call those that claim not to work for a living and just live of their subs and live in the lap of luxury*, are hard working folks by day and financial Mistresses by night, are Pro-Mistresses who may love what they do but make their living with their lifestyle, or are Entrepreneurs who are largely depended on the economy for their income, the economy will and does affect our livelihood directly.

I get so tired of Idiots sitting there and making the statement, that a money Mistress in financial straights or problems has not right to call her-self a financial Domme. I have one thing to say to you on that one, I hope for your sake that you never lose your job, your income or your home. These days all that can go from one second to the next.

I for one am an Entrepreneur, I make my money largely of the Sale of my writing (both articles and my self published books), my Websites both Adult and Non-Adult, my Clips4Sale Store, and my online counseling as well as Phone domination. Couple that with Pro-Sessions and financial domination. As you see for me each of my Venues is dependent on the economy doing well, people having extra leisure income and companies not being or going broke. I started unwittingly going freelance at the onset of the recession and really never fully had time to get my name of the ground as a writer, so now I am naturally stuck in the in between. Think publishing houses, who would you rather give your spare budget to? A guaranteed seller with a name or a newcomer?

I am not a Supermodel in looks, am as real as they come and have the benefit of many years of experience, which will make me also extremely intimidating to most, as well as more demanding. Why? Because I can be demanding, since I bring a lot to the table in return. I do not claim to be a Kindergarten Mistress, but fully speak out in the open about ALL my experiences, which is another thing that makes a lot of bois not only uncomfortable but fearful to get lost in me. (foolish really since that is exactly what they should be wanting – getting lost in my will). What does that have to do with this subject? Simply stated that these Days there are many who are just like me. We work hard in our various chosen fields to make our bills. There are times we make them and other times we can’t, just like everyone else.

But what about all those high money Tributes to the Amazing Goddesses we always read about? What about them? At times they are real, at times they are a fluke and they happen, but most of the time a $1000 and up tribute these days is something that comes seldom. Then the money is usually tied up in some sort of Gift Card, E-Certificate etc which means in the end the sub controls what the Mistress gets to spend the gift on. Doesn’t sound very submissive to me. Think about it, if I want $200 to make a payment for something I want and I need it in cash and you send me a Gift Certificate to a shoe store, then it really doesn’t do me much good.

But what about all the Tribute Porn I see all the time? Tons of photos some of these ladies have of Jewelry they receive, shoes they get bought for them, hands full of cash they hold with their middle finger up in the air and pig so and so having tributed?
Well to be honest, I am not saying that this couldn’t be the truth, but have you ever heard of things being staged?

Look the thing is simple. A lot of bois have the misunderstanding that if a Mistress has a lot of pigs, gets a lot of presents, is constantly taking exotic vacations, gets handfuls of money and is spoiled she is a great money Mistress. I mean the proof is right there!

The simple fact is that, there may be some that have been lucky enough to find a rich submissive that can keep them in style, may have a couple well to do subs that don’t mind spending the money, but most of us don’t. So knowing the psychology of easy to fool bois they stage it.
Anyone can go to the bank withdraw $1500 before they pay their Rent and bills and then hold it in their hand like a fan. But the caption…last nights haul on it, take the photo and done. Now you can take your own money back and pay your bills. To the bois is looks as if …hey she took it rich, and try to give. She must be good.
Gifts of Amazon Gift Lists are the same way. I can fill this stuff up and purchase my own stuff. You can’t see who bought it. So when I see a list that is constantly empty, I as a Business Woman start questioning it.

My question is, should a Mistress that is so obviously not needing you and who will just laugh at you without any remorse be so much more deserving of your service then one that works hard for what she has and is a human with worries like everyone else?

To me, and granted that may be because I am one of them, I would think that giving gifts, cash tributes to someone that works hard at what she does, that is more appreciative of what you give and is willing to reward you and appreciate you in return, would be not only a wiser choice but also the more arousing one as a sub.
At least you know you are really making a huge difference in her life.

What I do not agree with is the deceit so often perpetrated by so many of my fellow Ladies. If you are in as much financial strain as everyone else, have to work double hard to make your bills etc, why pretend that you are so much above everyone else? Is that what bois really want? If you do, then you are setting yourself up to be scammed and in my eyes have your rude awakening coming.

Think about this as well! How can a financial Domme be getting rich, if the average Joe does barely have enough money to pay his own bills these days. Will the bois take from their bill money to give it to her? If they do, should she allow them to do this? I leave you with that…Think about it for yourself.

Welcome to the Financial Domination Magazine!

If you are new to financial domination I hope you will take the time to look around, read as many Articles as possible and find your personal spot in this very costly and time consuming fetish. Costly for the Piggies that is and time consuming for the Ladies governing you.

This Blog has its birthday on December 30th 2008 and I hope will grow in leaps and bounds as I bring to you in my own slightly snappish style of writing the good, the bad and the ugly as I have seen and experienced it.

By the way thank you to Goddess Sue who in a moment of unguarded thoughts mentioned to me that reading my forum posts were like reading a Column at a Financial Domination Magazine.  So for good or bad, here it is.

Thank you for visiting!

Goddess Bella Donna